Stop Writing Open Letters

Nobody cares. 

Social media is littered with bitter, angry people with passive aggressive voice looking for an applause and/or revenge against someone who wronged & spited them. By the time I got up this morning up until I started writing this, I came across 7 different "open letters" throughout the social media,shared relentlessly by people who "relate", directed at anyone and anything: ex boyfriends and girlfriends, ex best friends, teachers, unruly kids, siblings, parent, that one waiter who called you fat 3 years ago, lovers past and present. Not all are bitter. Some are Notebook style cheesefest letters full of fluffy clouds, unicorn piss and your perfect human existence without a single flaw. Husbands writing love letters to their wives regarding birth of their child blah blah because NO WOMAN beside your wife has ever given birth and gone through some serious stuff. You are not a special snowflake for enduring hardship and this endless battle called life. Billion people struggle on daily basis and you want an applause? Sit down. Not sure what the intent is behind these letters. Redemption? Revenge? An answer to something? Sympathy and empathy from strangers on the Internet? I guess it is difficult to say: "I'm feeling kind of smug and self-righteous. Take my side," isn't it? But it what it boils down to. One singular experience built to shine light only on you, ignoring the other person or thing that made you pen the letter. Somehow and in some way, all these open letters end up begging for "praise me and my choices and crucify the other person/thing so I can feel better about myself."
Its dishonest and lazy. If you have a problem with someone...problem so grand that it made you pen a public letter, resolve it with that person, not the entire world. If you love someone so much, tell them. The concept of Open Letter is not terrible in theory, but it has been diluted by petty, self-righteousness and quest for glory and acceptance, no matter how empty, unimportant the topic is. 

"Help! My roommate is an asshole." GASP. I can't wait to dig into how perfect you are and how shitty your roommate is. 
"It happened to me: my husband likes MILF porn." Sounds like a thrilling read.

I honestly wish these were fake headlines.


Lets be real for a moment, 9 out of 10 times, your open letter is not really starting a dialogue or discussion. Your open letter reflects on YOUR experience and ignores ALL relations to society as a whole. You made up your mind and now you want me to take your side by showering you with kudos and "yay go you!" Some opinions and thoughts are just not worth sharing. The fact that you think the world will stop to read about your feelings about what your best friend did to you in high school, speaks volumes of your arrogance. It would have been easier and healthier if you confronted your best friend instead of penning a whiny letter. If  your "open letter" does not contribute to some form of change or influence across broad political and social spectrum, its just another egotistical piece begging for accolades and once again....nobody cares.




and I just realized I wrote an open letter to people that write open letters. Yikes.